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    Mailbag: Sept. 23

    Infidelity isn’t the end

    In response to “Learn from Jackie-O’s mistake” (Sept. 21):

    Thank you for your column drawing attention to the crisis that is infidelity. You are right that relationships are built on trust and in your underlying assertion that infidelity creates a deep rift in the relationship.

    However, I believe your assumption that all couples should call it quits after infidelity is naive and judgmental. I have seen many, many couples rebuild after infidelity. It is not impossible to rebuild trust; in fact many of these couples have an even stronger relationship after infidelity because in their crisis they are finally willing to learn how to have a truly transparent and intimate relationship.

    It is not an easy road, but it is so worth it to learn to grow, forgive, become accountable and become truly transparent and fully known by your spouse.

    The appropriate help may not have been available for Jackie and JFK, but it is now. Please do not doom all couples wracked by infidelity to divorce and more heartbreak. There really is so much hope to rebuild if the couple is willing to look at themselves honestly.

    — Erin Barry

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