Some do it on planes. Some do it in bathrooms. Some do it on waterbeds. And a lot of people do it in dorm rooms.
Sex is a part of college, and for many students that means the occasional dorm room escapade. This usually leads to the enormously awkward encounter with a roommate, in which a sock on the door, a text or the spoken word “dude” sends a blatant message that the roommate should probably leave the room so they can get freaky in peace.
But what happens when roommates disagree about leaving? In the case of a former student at Stonehill College, the roommate sues the school.
Lindsay Blankmeyer, a 2011 graduate of Stonehill College in Massachusetts, filed a lawsuit earlier this month claiming that the school failed to help her when she was stuck in a dorm room with a roommate who loved having sex. According to Blankmeyer, her roommate often had sex with her boyfriend while Blankmeyer was in the room, and if that wasn’t enough, participated in “sexually inappropriate video chats.”
Although Blankmeyer may be overreacting by suing the school for $150,000 worth of damages, it’s understandable that she felt enormous discomfort while living with a roommate who had no respect for privacy.
Many students have been in this awkward situation — their roommate having sex in the bed next to them, or the experience of being “sexiled” and having to sit out in the hallway or in a friend’s room until the human anatomy lesson in their own bedroom is finished.
According to Stonehill spokeswoman Kristen Magda, the college responded “swiftly and professionally” to Blackmeyer’s complaints. Her residence director mediated a conversation, then the school offered her “multiple options” for campus housing.
Rather than solving the problem by offering the irritant a new dorm room, the college instead gave Blankmeyer options for moving out. Eventually, Blankmeyer moved into a hotel, but it’s easy to understand how Blankmeyer felt she wasn’t the one who should have had to move.
Part of the college experience is learning to live with another person in a really small room. When one of the roommates violates the comfort of another, the violator should have to face repercussions.
Blankmeyer could have left the room. She could have put in a pair of headphones. She could have brought guys home and tried to join in on the fun. But she shouldn’t have felt compelled to do any of those things, or move out.
Rather than telling Blankmeyer’s roommate to hold in her horniness until she has her own place, the administration attempted to move Blankmeyer, who was just trying to enjoy the comforts of her room without being bombarded by the moans and groans she was enduring at night.
So hell yes, Blankmeyer was right to file suit against the school. No one likes being stuck in the room while your roommate goes at it or having to put a hand up so that you don’t see your roommate do a strip tease for her boyfriend on Skype. If residence hall officials know someone has to endure both of those things, multiple times a week, they shouldn’t take the nymphomaniac’s side.
— Dan Desrochers is a chemistry freshman. He can be reached at letters@wildcat.arizona.edu or on Twitter via @WildcatOpinions .