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    Fitting in is overrated

    It’s difficult to pick up a self-help book. After all, what could a stranger possibly tell you about yourself? “”Fitting in is Overrated”” by Leonard Felder is self-help book that might actually do the trick. It’s a guide for anyone who grew up without a niche – whether in one’s family, personal relationships or in the workplace.

    Although Felder seems to live in a fantastical world where all outcasts have a unique talent and popular people in cliques are vapid clones with deep personal problems, his inspirational stories are interesting. Dozens of his patients have overcome their inability to fit in using the simple exercises Felder provides. It’s not exactly about learning how to fit in, however. It’s about learning how to deal with people who differ from you or who make you feel inferior, so that you come out on top.

    The book covers different techniques to help discover what you want and how to get it. One of Felder’s strategies is to envision yourself being rewarded with $50,000 when you answer a question to yourself truthfully. Another is taking a second in a stressful situation to fully be aware of what you want to get out of it. Felder uses many real-life examples, ranging from patients of his own to celebrities like Ang Lee and Macy Gray who didn’t fit in and had to try and try again to get what they wanted. These people spent their lives trying in vain to fit in but were truly rewarded when they began pursuing their dreams over others’ ideals.

    It’s true that Felder repeatedly mentions results aren’t guaranteed, but if you think it might help you or someone you know, it’s worth a try.

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